Over the past few days, I've been thinking of something that needed to be talked about in a major way. Why are we reserving folks who acted up on us and disrespected us. Where do we get this reserving mentality from? Collectively, we have to stop sparing folks who don't appreciate us or folks who don't respect our mental health. Your mental health should be your top priority. Whatever doesn't sit right with your spirit shouldn't be apart of your reality. Theres nothing wrong with extending grace to people, but folks know exactly what they're doing. At some point, you must cut ties and leave folks in the past for your own good.

We were called to live a life like Christ, and even GOD himself didn't spare satan. We have to activate our boundaries and stop giving people chance after chance to repeat their toxic behavior in our lives. The real flex is ignoring negativity, blocking out negative people, and letting God handle the unrighteous.

The real flex is ignoring negativity, blocking out negative people, and letting God handle the unrighteousness.- Tianna Jenkins

I encourage you to embrace newness by removing everything and everyone who's violating your boundaries and start getting ready to make new connections in your life. Let go of everything that's not in-alignment and let God handle the rest! Those days of you playing small and being manipulated in silence are over. Me personally, I had to forgive myself from compromising for people who totally disrupted my peace over the past few years. We tend to hold onto people because of the history we have with them. Stop holding onto people because there are shared memories and history together. There are so many people out there who are willing to play their position very well in your life effortlessly. 

Those days of you playing small and being manipulated in silence are over.- Tianna Jenkins

Sis, rise up and stop violating your own boundaries for other people. Yes, you can definitely violate your own boundaries when you allow yourself to feed into the drama of others. I pray you heal from the things you don't like discussing with other people. I commend you for your effort to heal from those things. The healing stage is the hardest part of the process. I stand with you sis and collectively, we all can get through this assignment together. Always remember that everyone is not your assignment. Always extend grace to people who've tried to bring you back to a level you've prayed your way out of, but don't keep playing small to accommodate others.

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