Majority of us that know that feeling when you start to get uncomfortable. Either something deep down is nudging you, weighing you down, or has you in a state of confusion. Whether it's due to a limiting belief, tangible item or relationship that has run its course, you know you have to make a change because there's another version of reality that better suits who you are and who you're meant to be.
While we know that we may have to make some moves forward in order to get into alignment, for many of us the biggest challenge is letting go.
To be real, it sounds a whole lot easier than it is, but, it’s so necessary.
Letting go doesn’t necessarily mean you no longer care, nor does it diminish the actual worth of the thing (or person) you’re letting go of. It could just mean that something with you as an individual has shifted, and so you have to adjust accordingly.
Here are 4 tips to keep in mind to help you let go:
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1. Realize that saying “no” to one thing means you’re saying “yes” to something else
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You have to feel that, Get emotionally invested in what you’re saying yes to and count the costs if you don’t get to the “no”
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2. Know that you’re not doing it “to” them, you’re doing it “for” you
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This is particularly suited if what you have to let go of are certain relationships. People may take it personally. As best as you can do it in a way that conveys the spirit of your true “why”.
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For example: instead of the conversation being, "I don’t have time for you anymore, I have to let you go," the conversation can be, "I really appreciate all the time we’ve spent together, but in the next couple of months I’ll be going through some changes that may affect the amount of time we have available."
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The difference is you are taking ownership for your “yes,” and not leaving the conversation focused on the “no."
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3. Honor the time that thing (or person) did serve you
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What we forget when we hear “let go of the things that no longer serve you" is that there was, in fact, a time when those things DID serve us. Honor that. Make peace with that. If it’s a situation where you need to grieve that along with your transition, do that. Pretending it never existed isn’t usually the way.
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4. Keep waiting… don’t look back
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This is where we get into trouble. After we’ve gained the courage, let go, had the tough conversations and distanced ourselves to make room — now we’re left with an empty room. And more often than not, there’s a gap that we feel between the “no” and the “yes.” You quit the job and it takes a while for the new career to pick up. You distance yourself from those people, now you have all this extra time on your hands. You broke up with the guy or girl, and now you’re single and don’t have anything to do this weekend.
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It’s easy to feel the need to fill that gap immediately. This feeling is what leaves us susceptible to going back to the very things we walked away from because we’re uncomfortable in this new space. You have to be patient and trust your process. Trust that you made the right the decision. Believe that you’re capable of doing what’s best for you. We make the best decisions we can at the time we make them based on the information we have at the time. Unless the facts changed or the dynamics are now different, stick to your guns. Keep moving forward. Know that something is coming to fill that space naturally and in a more fulfilling way.
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Bonus: Don’t settle when you’re ready for the next “yes”
Remember your reason for letting go in the first place, it’s because you wanted better. Don’t settle for the same thing or less. Make sure you are moving forward, up-leveling along the way. Make it worth it.
Letting go may not be easy, but it doesn’t have to be tragic. I’m really excited for what’s in store for you once you start making room in your life.
Living Aligned,
Sash
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