Whether you are in the early stages of romance or have been together for years, carving out time for you and your partner to have intentional conversations allows you to build a stronger connection and explore the depths of your relationship.
If you’re finding it challenging to initiate meaningful conversations with your partner, questions and games can be fantastic icebreakers. “Would you rather” questions for couples, for example, offer an intriguing way to connect by presenting thought-provoking queries in a fun and lighthearted way, in order to spark deep conversations and foster a stronger bond between partners. “Couples can enjoy light-hearted banter, laughter, and friendly competition while exploring various revealing scenarios” says Ashima Sahore, a psychologist and consultant at Allo Heath.
One of the greatest advantages of engaging in these activities is the opportunity to learn more about each other. Through “Would You Rather” questions and games, you can gain valuable insights into your partner’s preferences, values, and desires. A question like “Would you rather spend every holiday with your family, or take a vacation during every holiday” might speak to a person’s family values. It might also allow partners to learn about what feels important in each other’s lives – Jordanne Sculler, Licensed Therapist and Relationship Expert.
“If you’re going to do a “Would you rather” game, it’s also key to ask why?” says Sean McGrail, Psychologist and Founder of Welcome Strangers, because whatever answer you get in return is what really helps you decipher the preferences and values of the other person.
To help you and your partner get started, we’ve put together a list of “would you rather” questions for couples, based on recommendations from the experts we spoke with. These thought-provoking queries span various themes and are designed to stimulate engaging conversations whether you’re cuddled up on the couch, enjoying a romantic dinner, or in the middle of a spontaneous road trip.
Interesting “Would You Rather” Questions on Relationship Preferences
- Would you rather have a partner who is more affectionate or more verbal with their feelings?
- Would you rather have a partner who surprises you frequently or a partner who plans special dates in advance?
- Would you rather have a partner who is more spontaneous or more predictable?
- Would you rather have a partner who values quality time or a partner who values acts of service?
- Would you rather have a partner who is more adventurous or more grounded?
- Would you rather have a partner who is more introverted or more extroverted?
- Would you rather have a partner who is more spontaneous with surprises or a partner who plans elaborate dates in advance?
- Would you rather have a partner who enjoys cuddling on the couch or going out for adventurous activities?
- Would you rather have a partner who prefers to express love through physical touch or through verbal affirmations?
- Would you rather have a partner who values independence or a partner who prefers to do everything together?
“Would You Rather” Questions on Travel and Leisure
- Would you rather go camping in the wilderness or stay at a luxurious hotel?
- Would you rather explore a new city together or relax on a secluded beach?
- Would you rather go on a hike in the mountains or a bike ride along the coast?
- Would you rather visit historical landmarks or explore natural wonders?
- Would you rather go on a skiing trip or a tropical getaway?
- Would you rather go on a road trip across the country or backpack through different countries?
- Would you rather explore ancient ruins or visit modern architectural wonders?
- Would you rather have a relaxing vacation at a spa retreat or an active vacation filled with outdoor activities?
- Would you rather visit famous landmarks or discover hidden gems off the beaten path?
- Would you rather travel to a destination known for its food or for its natural scenery?
Spicy “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples
- Would you rather have a slow, sensual massage or engage in a playful tickle fight?
- Would you rather have a romantic candlelit bath together or a steamy shower session?
- Would you rather have a date night of cuddling under a blanket or a date night of dancing in the living room?
- Would you rather have a deep, passionate kiss or a series of gentle, tender kisses?
- Would you rather have a slow, intimate dance with your partner or a passionate make-out session?
- Would you rather have a date night of whispering sweet nothings or a date night of exploring your fantasies and desires?
- Would you rather have a date night of sharing your deepest secrets or a date night of exploring each other’s bodies through touch?
- Would you rather have a date night of slow, passionate lovemaking or a date night of playful and adventurous experimentation?
- Would you rather have a date night of cuddling and watching a romantic movie or a date night of writing and sharing love letters?
- Would you rather have a date night of exploring new techniques and positions or a date night of focusing solely on pleasuring each other?
“Would you Rather” Questions on Food and Dining
- Would you rather have a candlelit dinner at home or dine at a fancy restaurant?
- Would you rather cook a romantic dinner together or order takeout and watch a movie?
- Would you rather try a new cuisine every week or stick to your favorite comfort foods?
- Would you rather have breakfast in bed or a picnic in the park?
- Would you rather bake cookies together or go out for ice cream?
- Would you rather have a candlelit dinner at a fancy restaurant or a cozy homemade dinner by the fireplace?
- Would you rather try exotic, adventurous foods or stick to familiar comfort foods?
- Would you rather have a partner who enjoys cooking and prepares meals for you or a partner who takes you out to try new restaurants?
- Would you rather have a wine and cheese night or a dessert tasting evening?
- Would you rather have breakfast in bed served by your partner or surprise your partner with breakfast in bed?
Tough “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples on Communication and Listening
- Would you rather have deep conversations late at night or meaningful conversations in the morning?
- Would you rather express your love through words or actions?
- Would you rather have a partner who remembers important dates or a partner who surprises you randomly?
- Would you rather have long, heartfelt talks or enjoy comfortable silences together?
- Would you rather resolve conflicts through calm discussions or take some time apart to cool down before talking?
- Would you rather have deep philosophical conversations or silly and playful banter?
- Would you rather have a partner who surprises you with small gestures or one who consistently shows appreciation?
- Would you rather have a partner who prefers texting or one who enjoys talking on the phone?
- Would you rather have a partner who prioritizes quality time or one who frequently showers you with compliments?
- Would you rather have a partner who is always honest or one who knows how to deliver difficult truths gently?
Hard “Would You Rather” Questions on Debt and Finances
- Would you rather prioritize paying off debt aggressively or saving for a dream vacation?
- Would you rather have a frugal lifestyle and save more money or enjoy some indulgences and live more comfortably?
- Would you rather have separate bank accounts and split expenses equally or merge your finances and manage them jointly?
- Would you rather invest in stocks or real estate for long-term financial growth?
- Would you rather have a strict budget and track every expense or have a more flexible approach to spending?
- Would you rather prioritize early retirement and live a simpler lifestyle or continue working longer to maintain a higher standard of living?
- Would you rather have a financial advisor manage your investments or take a hands-on DIY approach to your finances?
- Would you rather rent a home and have more flexibility or commit to a mortgage and build equity?
- Would you rather focus on reducing unnecessary expenses or increasing your income through side hustles or additional jobs?
- Would you rather have a high-paying job you dislike or a lower-paying job you love?
Fun “Would you Rather” Questions on Entertainment and Shared Activities
- Would you rather have a cozy movie night at home or go out for a live theater performance?
- Would you rather go on a double date with friends or have a romantic date just for the two of you?
- Would you rather dance together at a party or sing karaoke as a couple?
- Would you rather play board games or video games for a fun night in?
- Would you rather go to a music festival or a comedy show?
- Would you rather go to a concert of your favorite band or attend a live sports event together?
- Would you rather have a picnic in the park or go for a romantic boat ride?
- Would you rather spend a day at a theme park riding roller coasters or a day at a spa getting pampered?
- Would you rather have a weekly game night or join a dance class together?
- Would you rather go on a hiking adventure or take a scenic bike ride?
Deep “Would You Rather” Questions on The Future and Goals
- Would you rather live in a bustling city or a peaceful countryside?
- Would you rather have a partner who shares all your hobbies or a partner with complementary interests?
- Would you rather prioritize career success or work-life balance?
- Would you rather have a large family or remain child-free?
- Would you rather travel the world together or build a stable home life?
- Would you rather live in a small, cozy cottage or a modern, luxurious apartment?
- Would you rather have a partner who is more career-focused or one who prioritizes family life?
- Would you rather have a partner who is a risk-taker or one who prefers stability and security?
- Would you rather have a partner who loves surprises and spontaneity or one who prefers routine and predictability?
- Would you rather save money for early retirement or use it for unforgettable experiences and travel?
“Would You Rather” Questions for Married Couples
- Would you rather have had a small, intimate wedding with close family and friends or a large, extravagant wedding celebration?
- Would you rather renew your vows every five years with a big ceremony or have a private, intimate vow renewal every year?
- Would you rather prioritize spending quality time together as a couple or maintain individual hobbies and interests within your marriage?
- Would you rather have a partner who surprises you with romantic gestures throughout your marriage or a partner who consistently shows love and appreciation?
- Would you rather have a long engagement and enjoy the journey of wedding planning or have a shorter engagement and dive straight into married life?
- Would you rather have a marriage where both partners contribute equally to household chores and responsibilities or have a division of labor based on individual strengths and preferences?
- Would you rather have a designated date night every week or prioritize spontaneity and surprise dates throughout your marriage?
- Would you rather have open discussions about your future plans and goals as a couple or leave room for individual growth and evolution within the marriage?
- Would you rather have a marriage where you prioritize building a strong financial foundation or one where you focus more on experiences and making memories together?
- Would you rather have a marriage where both partners share decision-making equally or have one partner take the lead in major life choices?
Funny “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples
- Would you rather have a partner who always speaks in rhyme or a partner who always speaks in movie quotes?
- Would you rather have a partner who snores like a chainsaw or a partner who talks in their sleep and reveals all your secrets?
- Would you rather have a partner who always insists on singing everything they say or a partner who can only communicate through interpretive dance?
- Would you rather have a partner who can only communicate using emojis or a partner who can only speak in pig Latin?
- Would you rather have a partner who constantly tells bad jokes or a partner who can’t stop laughing at their own jokes?
- Would you rather have a partner who insists on wearing mismatched socks every day or a partner who always wears their clothes inside out?
- Would you rather have a partner who always insists on ordering the spiciest food available or a partner who can’t handle any level of spice?
- Would you rather have a partner who is constantly late to everything or a partner who is always early to the point of annoyance?
- Would you rather have a partner who believes in conspiracy theories or a partner who believes they have superpowers?
- Would you rather have a partner who constantly forgets their own birthday or a partner who always mixes up your name with someone else’s?
Good “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples
- Would you rather live in a big house in the middle of nowhere, or in a studio apartment in a bustling city?
- Would you rather die in 25 years with no regrets, or live another 50 but have many regrets?
- Would you rather your partner constantly be running 15 minutes late or a half hour?
- Would you rather be the class clown or the teacher’s pet?
- Would you rather have more money or more time?
- Would you rather give up caffeine or alcohol?
- Would you rather be infamous, or forgotten completely after you die?
- Would you rather never age mentally or physically?
- Would you rather be 25 or 45 forever?
- Would you rather change the past or predict the future?
Romantic “Would You Rather” Questions for Couples
- Would you rather be kissed on the cheek or the lips?
- Would you rather sleep under the stars or at a nice hotel?
- Would you rather be surprised with flowers or take-out?
- Would you rather be the first to say “I love you” or have it being said to you by the person you are with?
- Would you rather be someone’s first love or last love?
- Would you rather love and lose or never love at all?
- Would you rather sacrifice the whole world to save the person you love OR sacrifice the person you love to save the whole world?
- Would you rather truly love someone you can never have or have someone you can never truly love?
- Would you rather the love of your life is a lot like you or is very different from you?
- Would you rather go to heaven or stay in hell with your love?